Before that happens, you need to serve her the papers. I cut the cord. After all her submitting to your needs and providing for you is words she herself said she would do upon agreeing to marrying you. If you have no one and just want to vent, please send me a message and I will listen to all you want to say on skype. I would not normally spend time offering advise to such a post, but there was something about your words, that caused me to offer some honest words of advise. I wonder if she's still married to my ex-lover and if she's happy. It might also extend to the rules of law. As @El and @happythoughts have stated, when one door closes, another opens. I was done with him, what had I to say to her not my problem, not my problem, not my Wow I never thought to think of it like this. I would like to think I'd be strong enough to walk past my UH AP one day without giving her any expression of emotion or time of day. It's ours. Isnt that the sh*t? Long ago, I was the other woman, the mistress, and the villain. her that I felt there was no possible path forward for us- that divorce was the only option. Do EVERYONE a favor and don't have kids until this is resolved. This may be hard to understand in the cold light of day. Do not upset the poor girl. Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. I found Affair Recovery when I was at the darkest point in my life, and this course has helped me to get myself on a true path to recovery." She is cheating within 1 year and you have no kids. I wished her no ill will, I just needed her to confirm that it is as in fact over. When she does, I just make myself a fake profile using the name of fictional characters, and post all the details of her affair, including photos and videos she sent on her FB page, buried in comments on old posts. Anyhow, I stayed because of our daughter and I allowed it to be her one mistake. But that, in of itself is helpful. @Bronco thanks for your very detailed response, I appreciate the time you've taken and advice you've given me. Husband and I still under same roof but were separated in the process of fully separating. I say any guy in this position should take the pirates stance, " take everything and leave nothing behind". If you do not respect yourself then who will? She asked me about particular details only a lover would know. It'll help the two of you communicate in effective ways and find answers as to why the affair happened - in a much healthier way than contacting the affair partner. I thought she would move after he passed. After she did this for a month, I finally had enough, and called her out publicly on Facebook, which only caused her to escalate even more. Maybe the relationship wasnt meant to last and your ex-wife probably had the wandering eye for a while. That is all. No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change. I'm far away from all of that now. In the first case, desperate people can do desperate things. It's about us. Never. altogether. She said it's over, but I know it's not. Go get a big steak, go lift some weights and then think about this. As soon as I told her, she didnt deny it, and soon acknowledged it. Build on yourself, learn all you can, and eventually you will love again when you are ready. Rick, thank you for this article. In a way, I was happy.it opened my husbands eyes to whom she really is, and it was my opportunity to show to him that Im the better, proud, string and wise woman. If he sees a dress he likes and he cannot buy it for me but get it for another lady, then there is a problem and we have to solve it. For others, it may be a need to face their fears. She was still in denial even though she knew. My husband had an affair when the kids were 8 and 13. I made my vowels to him, not them, dont owe them anything. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. As much as I can move on, take responsibility, or as many times as I can apologize to my lover's wife (which I did), that kind of experience lives with you and takes up residence in your soul. Your spouse has already betrayed your trust at a very basic level, so confronting the other person may And if he sense that you are not being straightforward with him, he is unlikely to be open and honest with you (see when people lie). So confronting an affair partner? You really need to let go of this whole thing. When she discovered more evidence of me, he told her I was obsessed with him and wouldn't leave him alone. Will confronting the other woman or man only further his or her resolve? Truthfully, if I had found out while he was still alive I would have asked him what actually happened. I'm sure the tellers had their antennas tuned all the way up since we were discussing infidelity and different ways to respond. Out of embarrassment, your spouse may grow defensive and try to minimize the problem or may even try to shift blame for his or her actions to you: There wouldnt be a problem if you werent so paranoid. Because of the unpredictability of confrontation, many spouses choose not to confront, even after they have seen early warning signs. Some people respond by backing down, some people respond by attacking, and some people will try to avoid the confrontation 2023 BuzzFeed, Inc. All rights reserved. That was in 1993, then, in 2019 I discovered that my H didnt stop at this 1 affair, he continued trying to fill his personal void throughout our entire marriage and this included reigniting his affair with this first woman years after I extended the olive branch Does this make me a chump? I believe my healing restarted every other day. You will now need to get tested for STD's as well as your wife. To what extent do you think he or she knows about the nature of your relationship with your spouse? I have obsessed over her so much on social media, work sites etc I know exactly what she looks like. WebI Confronted My Cheating Wife's AFFAIR PARTNER AT HIS HOUSE rSpace 70.9K subscribers Join Subscribe 6.2K Share Save 415K views 2 years ago I Confronted My Maybe you agonized about doing this. He naturally attributed the initiative in the affair to my wife, while she attributes it to him, but how can I decide who's accurate about that? I came clean. They spoke in a similar way. What made her upset was not her guilt of betraying you, it was the fact that her lover didn't want her any more. *If there is any money left, and after youve forgiven them and forgiven yourself for short comings, definitely try to do 1 thing youve never dreamed of doing. WebTheres no point in confronting those lovers. You must stay calm, confident, loving, as always. Just remove yourself from the equation. I will walk out of the marriage- Derek Agyei. Space Is Limited. Two days later because I was in the same town as she was I text her and asked if she would be willing to meet for coffee. I just told her I KNOW what is going on with XXXXX. Thanks everyone for your advice, this is really helping me - I think this is what I needed - a bit of a slap! Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. You will find someone who is deserving of you. We all live in the same city..a small one..ugh! Wow. I would highly recommend giving this a try. Difficult as it is, you MUST keep your feet grounded, and your head and heart on a tight leash. There might also be some truth in it -- but how messed up is that? Without her in it. Think, coolly about these options. So, making contact and receiving well deserved apologies helped bring closure to this chapter in the affair and hopefully help in the healing process of my marriage. The shocking twist to this story is that the purported man is not only a coworker, I was not prepared for her response (didn't know about the 'fog' of the affair yet) and was completely devastated with her rejection of my commitment to her in spite of learning of her affair. See a lawyer immediately to understand your options. Thanks for listening. But I would never answer the call. I have a reputation I would not want to tarnish. You need to calmly explain your feelings and tell her to put herself in your shoes. My life changed for the better after that night. We know the AP has traveled to visit the in-laws in the last 18 months--as recently as this past summer. Its normal to go mad with such painful thoughts. 2018 Truth About Deception. So I answered the call that night and two hours later it was all over. 2018 Truth About Deception, Examples of contacting the other person . It taught him there wasnt a limit to what I could cope with - but yes she did turn to him for comfort and played the guilt card. As a result of their friendship with her, our children and I have cut off contact with them. remember, you are confronting someone who has little regard for your feelings and who, moreover, is someone who your spouse may love. Obviously, she has her own demons to battle. I wish you luck and stop being afraid. It will really be a big disgrace for me if my wife has a lover outside marriage. Over the years, this 17-week, small group course has helped thousands of people find hope, set healthy boundaries and move toward extraordinary lives. What about telling the affair partner's spouse if the motive for doing so is to clear your conscience morally and being truthful? By All that matters is taking care of yourself and your son. But damn if you cant make your own meaning out of it. I wish i had never done this and had never said anything to my H. Just for my ducks in a row and left preserving my dignity. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. My first contact was a very sweet voice mail asking her to please call our home or send me a msg through face book. Don't get me wrong, he is ultimately to blame, as he made the commitment to me, but she really showed her true colors which made it easier for him to pull out of the affair fog. NEVER. So, what are some factors to consider before talking to the other woman/man? Her husband and her husband's lover promise her that they won't see each other again after she discovered their relationship. You clearly know that. It was true, I DID have to have them. You are no longer a husband, but an ex. Its normal to feel the way you are feeling, and to lose the grip with reality. Id gone to the extremes of thinking about stepping out the back door of life, missing the two people that mattered most, but God will never give you more than you can handle. Sofor really the first time in 38 years I am very serious in considering getting a divorce. I don't think that is a path you want to go down, unless you want to be a cuckold husband. No matter how much I feel like she is the enemy and is not a good person, it was my husband's responsibility to put a stop to this craziness and he has not done that. Will your spouse take your side? It hurts now, to be forced to fill the separation and see more than a bland life thrown at you without choice, but YOU can fill that hole with something new. As a man, I will have to deal with my wife by talking to her. This article originally appeared on YourTango. Then she changed her tune and told me "he'd never been in love with me and was going to start a new life with her." Hand over the evidence to your attorney. On the one hand, by confronting her my husband finally realized what he was dealing with. Turns out my wife is co-dependent and her AP is a malignant narcissist; she was drawn to him like a moth to a flame. That I forgave her. WebYour spouse has already betrayed your trust at a very basic level, so confronting the other person may provide your spouse with the opportunity to openly demonstrate how much Meanwhile Im constantly told not to confront and just deal with it. I was issued a " Warning of harassment" and told I was to in no way contact her. Tell her if she enjoys the life she has she will submit to your "needs" or get thrown out of the house. *Embrace the Initial Pros: Sad because one side of the bed is empty? My errand accomplished nothing. I contacted the AP via message. What she is doing is her problem, not yours. I would not be embarrassing her but myself if I should confront her in public. To protect her. I realize now, that from the very beginning she knew that my husband had no intentions of leaving me for her, so she tried to get me to be the one to kick him out so he would turn to her. Maybe you're still waiting to come up with the perfect withering remark to deliver along with your poisoned umbrella tip. I know that sometimes in marriage distractions can set in. Do NOT confront your sweet wife with anything. The other woman is also married. This seems cut throat, but will help you if a custody battle comes up. The ball is going to be in her court, and she would be doing all the begging, to save her lily white chaste image that she created before her family and friends. His wife pleaded with me to not contact him until she could serve him with the divorce papers because being a very high profile person in our small town that if word got out it would ruin his reputation and he would have no reason to sign the papers that would have meant a very large settlement to her. Truth About Deception back to our home page. At this point she clearly has no respect for you whatsoever. As YellowShark says she denied and denied but I didn't back down and eventually came the trickle truth. She used the same kinds of words my lover did; you could tell that they were a couple. I would like to communicate with you further! He didnt but I keep a close eye on him. Apparently she has booked an appointment to see a councillor. Look, to exist in an affair for any length of time, you have to be a few sandwiches shy of picnic. Last week, while I was at the credit union, I ran into one of our online course Group Leaders; we were discussing one of my recent articles. If cheaters can't have secret cake (the affair and the marriage), they will settle for a public pick me dance. Copyright 1997-2022 LoveShack.org. She must NOT grow suspicious that her loving, devoted, starry eyed hubby has a clue about someone else lubricating her plumbing every day. He was old, ugly, and weak. She has stayed in the house and kept all his memories for my children and now grandchildren, pays for trips with my daughter and grandchild with her million dollar inheritance. c) Reconciliationthat is if you so desire a reconciliation ( I personally would not). Theyre simply taking the opportunity that came their way from your wife. I want vengeance but everytime I seriously think about confronting her, I remember that I need her to stay with her poor cuckold of a husband so she wont be completely available. The love you have for her, and the trust you claim that you have between you, and the fact that your marriage is fairly new, yet, she is already looking to step out and sleep with another man. At this point, dont focus on rekindling the relationship. First, you must prepare yourself to deal with the situation in a mature manner and you Filing for divorce. I want to stay married. But you are still a father. However, there IS good news for each confronting a cheater reaction. Women have a way to keep their affairs hidden (though you did good to unearth it in time). I can honestly say now that i have forgiven my husband, and that feels so good. Being in an affair has been likened to addiction, and in confronting the affair partner, you're trying to sober them up. Your identity and who you are has changed. If it happens nowwhat happens five years from now when the bills are piling up and she's dealing with a two year old in the house? This doesnt tarnish who you are or what you can become. Incontrovertible proof. When we met I did not confront him but rather simply asked him how it started & what it meant to him & so on. Either you've got really low self-esteem and opt to be a side dish, or you're flamingly narcissistic. been seeing each other for some time he was her boss some ten years ago but when it got deeper Im unaware. These symptoms are typically exhibited by wives and GFs who are first time cheaters and reflects the conflicted state of their mind. And if they initiate contact, block and do not engage. You need to divorce her right now. I'm hoping to be able to see the AP one day with no reaction. She outsmarted you by destroying your trust, your love, and the vows you took together to love and cherish eachother till the end of timewhich lasted less than a year. Goes to show you its all their own issues, not anything to do with us. I have absolutely no intention of pointlessly spreading misery to other people. It is an opportunity. Who has little or no self worth. My wife has been acting very strangely, very distant over the last month, saying that she is confused and doesn't know what she wants from life. The reason her job is a concern is because her lover is her boss where she works, an obvious no-no. Not as bad as you, but I do fell your pain. In such situations, it's not realistic to expect your spouse to stay neutral. You haven't even been M that long! Built their house on land we were supposed to and made sure to get married in the city we loved as a couple so thats wrecked for me. They use tracking devices to keep a tab on the love birds and their cars to corroborate the cellphone trail, photo/video evidences. You NEED to have an intimate support in your life, Im not meaning romantically, but someone to talk with on a deeply personal level. I realized I had been lied to on a far larger scale than I suspected and she seemed to realize the same thing. And why you didnt post there following the replies? As a result we dont talk, perhaps this is for the better.why do I need two faced people around me and my children. My husbands job was about to dictate him to be working out of the town he and his AP spent time in on a two week gone one week home schedule for the next three months. Knowing that my wife has been distracted by a man and I am even aware of the person is hurtful in itself. I never It gave me even more strength and let me feel better about myself. So, I dunno, I think it's a case by case scenario. But it became clear that it was all a lie. The first thing she'll ask is how I know - should I reveal this? No trial, no investigation and proof. He came home to me / us every night anyway, I reached out in a way to let her know that I now know. Conflicts are By entering your email and clicking Sign Up, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. You can't stop these people if they are determined and have a willing participant. She even apologized, and sounded sincere. Do you want to end the affair? Copyright 2004 Your son deserves to be in a positive environment. She basically wanted to discuss two things. Always a way out. My initial contact with my wife's AP was to let him know the gig was up. You will get through this. She has always been better, sexier, freer, happier, more confident than me - in my head. I believe my spouse and I can talk things over and settle our differences without involving a third party. Do not fight around him or anything. If she is After my husband joined me at our new home in Nevada, she sent me messages under a fake name, at the same time sending him a cascade of messages which he ignored. You can still be the role model your son deserves, you can still be the person you have always been and more. Complete reversal of what she thought before. E Eli-Zor Registered The most common rationale is that you are sexless and crazy. DONT confront your wifes lovers. I speak as an ex-lawyer. You start confronting those guys, and you just opened up a potential legal floodgate Sure wish I would have read this post before I decided to confront. That hurt. Insist on divorce? Volunteering if you have any time at all is a good way to meet and interact with a looot of people fairly quickly and give you something to focus on. I have waited a year and have given it a lot of thought. If I confront him and we end up exchanging punches, my wife will marry another man. I traveled to a random country and got off the plane realizing it was a Muslim country. The pain seemed impossible to bear, but I am thankful to God for walking me through every second of it! Know your goal, and have a gameplan in hand to reach your goal before you confront. (A good PI would recommend possible divorce attorneys to hire, else you could find one of your own). You are also agreeing to our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. 1. Over the 7 weeks ( which is today) I tried 4 times to contact her. I wish you all strength. You will never be able to trust her, you'll be constantly checking up on her, whenever you are apart you will be torturing yourself with what she may be doing what kind of marriage is that??? When you have a PI on your corner, he will ask you to stop shadowing her or tinkering with her email etc. I wish that for your sake he won't want to say anything in reply to what you say, but knowing APs, he will and it will be unpredictable and probably extremely painful what he says in reply, even if it isn't founded on truth. They might. I choose not to indulge or become a part of the negativity in the world. THAT was my mistake. Apart from being married, I have an image to protect. Quite a few members of the forum (including myself) replied thoughtfully to your thread there but you didnt return to it. Youre just afraid to accept the facts. Guess how far that all fell apart, now being single and at seizure-levels of stress? In such a situation, the other person may be able to gain the upper hand by saying things which make you look foolish or not in control Ive been dwelling on the idea of confronting my wifes lover. You have to know who you are and what you can handle. This has nothing to do with each others families. He denies that it became physical but he lied about everything and kept the relationship completely secret for at least three years so Ill never be completely sure. Theyre the chumps, they made their choices and have to live with them. The bottom line is that anyone who would knowingly sleep with a married man (or woman) especially when the wife is PREGNANT (as in my case) is a broken human being. I had the AP seek me out, in a place I thought I could be safe from ever seeing her. Im so sorry to hear things ended up this way. Your bed now. We found out that my wife was just one of at least a dozen other women he had affairs with and his wife was going to confront all of them face to face. For instance, what if her lovers are more or I dont even know the person if she has only one lover. You are wondering if she will get banged by that dude today or not. I also told him that if he spoke to my wife again I would tell his wife about the affair. I dont have any business with the man. It only causes heartbreak for you. I will probably always love her. I would not want something like that to happen. I just give you my opinion from some real life experiences. And it might also be a pack of lies. Anger for her betrayal, lies, and coverup. Don't let this woman use you as a doormat or she will cheat on you again. She found my number on her husband's phone bill and called me. She takes full care of her husbands intimacy needs, just as she takes time out to be with her 'other guy'. I was done with the lying, the secrecy, and my lover's cowardice. That's where all of us recovering from adultery need to focus. Acceptance is the best thing that will ever happen to you. Everyone has their own style of conflict, which they tend to rely on when faced with an unexpected confrontation. This is not your problem, this is hers. At some point my FIL will pass away and I'm sure the AP will show up at the funeral. The timeline had changed from a couple of years to 3 or 4 years and a couple of months ago , putting 2 and 2 together, she admitted that the affair went on for almost 20 years and that she never initiated any part of it but never could tell him NO when he would call her and set up a meeting. Can you imganine the drama and the extra stress? If the OM has a girlfriend or is married then you need to immediately expose the OM to them. I never responded to her message..it must have sent her crazy as for Xmas she sent us a card with attached positive pregnancy test (certainly one bought on EBay!) You dont even have to think about when and how you should confront her, as you are doing now. No. Maybe I am a wimp, I'm here for advice and I can't help the way I feel. Get tested for STD's since you know this is not the first time. What if you should meet up with her by chance? I never responded after that. Emotional purgatory and indeed more complex and torturous than can be placed into words. Save. It still hurts and I need to move on. When you say something like that, people dont question your reasoning. No. And i would assume a great many of things as well. Confronting her would only bring more conflicts into our marriage thereby creating distance between me and my husband. With the hubby she is the regular loving housewife. I find knowing this makes life decisions much easier. You deserve never to have to go through it again and the assurance that it will never happen again. I think, the storm has passed. As a person of faith I dug deep and clung tightly to my identity in Christ. If someone wants to engage in an affair, or leave you for an affair partner, no amount of rational argument is going to sway them otherwise. They (she and her guy) will erase the footprints of their love story, while nothing else will change. I don't want to drag her through the mud. When she returns home with her cum stained panty underneath, please hug her again, and tell her how much you love her, and how she is the apple of your eye. I need nothing from him. Under no circumstance should you lose your temper, or get violent. Logically, I know she's crazy and was grasping at straws trying to "win." Your not a wimp for being cheated on or for being in shock at this discovery. Only a mad manll do that- Jonathan Akpan. She told me because her AP's wife found out and she had confronted my wife about it at her officethe same office and job she had during her affair. And she wanted details. So I did wait for a couple of weeks but then I sent him text messages and told him just what I thought of him and just how bad he had hurt me and my wife and that I was being moved by the Lord to let him know that I forgave him and would pray for him and that I was determined to make our marriage work no matter what . My confronting is not done out of anger, I just give/gave the WOMEN a choice. After all is said and done, some of you will still feel an overwhelming need to confront the affair partner. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. Even when you come in peace such individuals prefer trouble. A few IMPORTANT things. I could tell she didn't want to leave him. If I confront him, we might end up fighting and it will be a disgrace to my children and family. The point is to get away from them both and stop giving your cheater and the affair partner your precious mental energy. At 1 year? Most men would give up in that amount of time or relapse. 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